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So, I have been a father for over 30 years.  If you have been a father (or mother probably more importantly because mothers carry all children even longer than us guys and bear pain we can’t even imagine) you know what this parenting means, especially that of a teenager….16 year old..and a daughter….I have 3 of them (daughters) and one son.  All but one are over 16.   It is first an honor.  I cherish being a dad.  There are few relationships as precious as that of a parent.  I am proud to be a parent of all my children but…this does not change the difficulty of being a parent…..of a young child…..like I once was…..and am in many respects …. still am….a young child…Immature….me…and my children….still growing up….together.

As my wife and I dealt with just normal issues of being a parent with one of our children…I just began to think about me….the selfish part of me….that part that is so self centered…..yes, I thought of me as a child and not a parent…..that part of me that wants to take and not to give, … that part of me that wants it all my way and not any other way…..I began to see what it all meant.  If I am honest with myself…there are times that I don’t want to go to work, to get out of bed, to answer any emails, to talk on the phone…..to not want to have to speak to anyone….I want it my way, in my time, like I want it…..and many times….alone.

God is in charge of our lives, whether we want it or not.  God loves us so supremely that he gave a part of himself so that we could have life forever with him….  

Then I came back to my responsibility.  A parent.  But in love, my wife and I shared with our child what we know God had for her.  

Just like with me….it is up to me…whether I accept or reject God’s plan for my life.  So it is with all of my children.  Accept or reject what God has for us…for me, for my children, and for you.  

God is awesome in my family.  

Good luck!    Ephesians 6:4 says that Fathers should, “not exasperate your children;  Instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”  I think I am ok in bringing them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.  I have been called by God to teach the Gospel.  I have brought most of my children to salvation through Jesus Christ and the Gospel. (despite how messed up I am at times myself)  I have and continue to teach them in every moment that I can.  I have a load of fun with them in showing them God’s principles and just how He works…..

I have trouble with the exasperation part….especially in the evening….when I am trying to get them fed….get homework finished…get clothes in the hamper….get showers/baths…get dishes cleaned up…get lunches made…get pajamas on…get bedtime stories done….get blogs done….get my work done for the next day….spend time with my wife….read what I need to teach on next….spend a few minutes with myself (yea..right)…and then to do all this so that I do not exasperate my children.  Sometimes I want to give up!

Exasperate means to not make them enraged….great chance with teenagers….it means to not make them negative.

It is a tough job being a dad.  This scripture says….fathers…not mothers…so I can’t push this off on my wife (like I would like to do) and go in my hole and hide….so the gig is on me.  It is on you fathers….  So, I just tell you that I have a  hard time with this..at times…as they want to get on the internet, not take the shower, not do the homework, not clean up, not do what I say…not get this all done by 830pm each night….well, they are kids… I am the dad….I am glad I am!  I love my life and my family.

Dads….work on not making them angry…get them on your side…as I try to also. louie